Best Buds

Do you have a best friend who knows everything about you? He knows how you got the scar on your arm, your favorite drink you always order and the secret about that one night at band camp when no one was around. She supported you through all of your breakouts, your fashion blunders and heartaches. He helped you build many forts, collect worms for fishing and stood at your side on your birthday. She shared her clothes, snuck out with you and ran messages to the ones you liked. It was your best bud, your brother like no other, your girl, or your BFOE.

Sometimes they enter your life really young. You grow up together and old together. Others enter your life at times when you were not necessarily looking for a best friend to appear.

My son got lucky. He met his in kindergarten. We lived in the same building. They were in the same class several times in elementary school. They spent the night over each other's house. They played the same games including soccer together. Even when he moved away, it was like nothing changed when we went to visit. It was fun watching them pick up where they left off. They are best buddies even from far away.

It's wonderful to have someone to share with on this level. Someone who gets you and accepts you. I don't know exactly what kind of combination or chemical reaction causes a friendship like this to form, but somehow, when you meet a person that you just click with, it can happen. And over time....become....BFOE.

I once read a poem about friendship and the different levels of purpose it serves. I started thinking about all of the different friendships I have had with different people. I began to wonder how this applied to me. What did I consider myself to be? What are you?


A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never known, or done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

In the reality of the world, I think we are all three affecting different people in different ways. I believe it is those lifetime friends that have the ability to reenter your life and just pick up where you left off. You know the one...your best bud.

A little props out to Kelley for being my BFOE. A great woman who will never stick me in peach. A strawberry shortcake to ya. Cheers!


Stay sweet 'n smile.....................Mz.